Just Shut Up!

If you badger your estranged spouse, ex-spouse or other parent of your child(ren) not to use the attorney he or she retained, you only guarantee he or she does use that lawyer and follows that lawyers instructions to the tee, even if to him or her in the long run. You will cause your estranged spouse, ex-spouse or other parent of your child(ren) to believe that lawyer is so good, you are afraid of that lawyer. So, even if everything you may say to your estranged spouse, ex-spouse or other parent of your child(ren) about that person’s lawyer of choice is true, it will have the opposite affect than you hope.

Your estranged spouse, ex-spouse or other parent of your child(ren) will probably show it or tell it to that person’s lawyer who will then try to really go after you and think to his or herself that you are everything your estranged spouse, ex-spouse or other parent of your child(ren) says about you. Not to mention it will annoy and irritate your estranged spouse, ex-spouse or other parent of your child(ren) causing all litigation to be worse that otherwise might have been resolved with much less ado. Your estranged spouse, ex-spouse or other parent of your child(ren) lawyer may even be so petty or insecure that he or she tries to, or threatens to, sue you for libel or slander.

If your estranged spouse, ex-spouse or other parent of your child(ren) goes off about your lawyer, do not follow suit. Your attorney does not need to be defended. If your lawyer does, then your lawyer is not one you should have hired. Let your estranged spouse, ex-spouse or other parent of your child(ren) run his or her mouth. Do not run your mouth!!!

Whenever a litigant on the other side bad mouths me, I find it flattering that I am doing my job so well. Most good lawyers I know take it the same way.

Do not run your mouth endlessly about anything ever, especially after having retained a lawyer. You will only make it worse for yourself. It is counter productive. Know when to just shut up. More important than knowing the right thing to say, is knowing when to say less or nothing at all.

To sum up, just shut up!