Everyone always wants to know what the right thing is to say, but too often it is knowing when to say nothing at all that is most important.
In divorce, custody, and order of protection cases, emotions run high. Bitterness can cause a desire to punish or pay back your spouse.
In child custody and child visitation cases, I constantly hear “but my child(ren) told me…”. Conversation with the child(ren) about who the child(ren) want to or should live with, even if raised by the child(ren), is improper.
When you are in Divorce or Family Court, mind your own business. You have enough to worry about: your divorce, child custody and child visitation, child support and spousal maintenance, orders of protection, division of debts, equitable distribution, counsel fees and more.
When in the middle of a divorce, you do not want to give the other side any ammo against you or anything that will prove them right about you in a negative way. You want to show the Court…